An Unwelcome Friend: “Delay”

The other day I was on the phone catching up with a good friend who now lives with this wife in Baton Rouge. He mentioned that the journey my family and I embarked upon over a year ago was still inspiring him. I asked why. He said, in a word, “perseverance.” We had not given up.

I thought about this for a bit. To be honest, this word was really encouraging. One of the great qualities that has defined the life and ministry of my parents is perseverance. What a quality! Granted, they persevered for years and years and years and I have not. And, in light of what so many Christians in the world are enduring, what my family and I have faced is hardly anything. I get that. But, though the quantity of disappointment may differ from one person to next, the quality is similar. As Solomon wrote ever so wisely, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick” (Proverbs 13:12). However, he did not have the Holy Spirit living inside his heart. After all, the New Covenant in all of its glory was still in God’s womb.

In light of my friend’s comment, Psalms 105:19 came to mind:

“Until the time that his word came to pass, the word of the Lord tested him.”

I could not help but think that when God deposits a promise, a direction, or a place in your heart, there are really only two ways in which to respond when you meet with that unwelcome friend called, “Delay.” They are listed below:

  1. You will start to believe that it was only “you.” In other words, you will interpret the “delay” to mean that you actually missed God. This is the moment that, either due to deep discouragement, anger, depression, hopelessness, or a sense of meaninglessness, you choose to abort what God had birthed inside of you. A baby takes nine months. Did you forget?
  2. Or, you will stand. You will keep declaring. You will stare into the abyss of nothingness, continue to grope (Acts 17:27), and like a bulldog, tenaciously keep biting down on that which God placed in your spirit. God works  mightily in the clouds and fog. This is your greenhouse. What an opportunity for growth!

Which option will it be? Have you bought into the fast-food model of Christianity and aborted what God placed in you. The amazing thing about God is that he can replant that “child” into the womb of your spirit. He gives second chances. Will you walk by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). Will Christ really find faith in your heart (Luke 18:8)?


Published by B.J. Condrey, PhD

Dr. Condrey holds a Bachelor of Arts in both Philosophy and Psychology from the University of Missouri-KC, a Master of Arts in Philosophy from the University of Southern Mississippi, and a Ph.D. in Ethics & Practical Theology from the University of Edinburgh. He is ACSI certified. Dr. Condrey writes courses and teaches Psychology, Bible, and C.S. Lewis at Enlightium Academy, where he began working in 2016. He has served as a youth, young adult, and small group pastor in the local church, and currently teaches Ethics at the University of Southern Mississippi. He has a book published by Wipf & Stock (Breaking Ground) along with other publications. In his spare time, he enjoys reading and writing, spending time with his family, traveling, trout fishing, family hikes, and drinking coffee! He is passionate about helping young people construct a biblical worldview so that their faith involves both the mind and heart. He has been married since 2009 and has two children.

2 thoughts on “An Unwelcome Friend: “Delay”

  1. Wow !! I just heard a Pastor and his wife’s story on this very same thing. Todd and I were checking out a ministry that we herd about. The Pastor had been a successful businessman in Houston and was led to connect with a ministry in Slidell, La. For 4 months he drove over every weekend to minister. And then he finally left his job and moved here to run the ministry while his wife took the bus on weekends. Oh by the way… no pay for this job. Now they are both here working where the Lord has them. They are working a plan to expand and it is great to see where they came from and cool to see where the Lord is taking them.
    The best part is they used the exact words to describe how this started and what they went through. It was 9 months of growing this child in them and then birthing it. Perseverance, yes they still are but the visibility is getting clearer.

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